If you’ve been following my blog, then you know that last Thursday I embarked on my road to recovery from Mommy’s Distracted Disorder. My plan was to stop using the “smart” features of my cell phone. To be less distracted and to be more aware of the world going on around me. I still planned to use the phone for talking and occasional texts, but no more facebooking, email checking, or web surfing on the go for me. My hiatus so far has lasted five days and here’s what I’ve learned:
1. When I’m not on my phone I hardly ever say “In a minute” to my kids.
2. The world does not come to a complete standstill when I don’t return my emails within the hour that they were delivered to my inbox.
3. It’s okay that I don’t know the facebook statuses of my friends at all times. If one of them has an emergency status update, they’ll text me or call me if I really need to know about it.
4. Engaging with the people around me is much more rewarding than typing an email on a mini-QWERTY keyboard.
5. I’m a lot more likely to notice that my potty training toddler actually needs to go to the potty when I’m not looking at my smart phone!
6. Birds are chirping, flowers are blooming, children are playing, people are laughing, and some are even crying. When my head is in my phone, it’s not at all paying attention to what’s going on in the world around me. But when my phone is put away, I do a much better job of taking part in life.
7. I look at my phone a lot more during the day than I really need to. Sort of like when I counted calories for the first time and realized that I was consuming a lot more than I thought (or even needed)!
8. Sitting down at the computer or opening up my ipad a few times a day is a lot less time consuming and distracting than keeping up with my emails throughout the day on my phone. Who knew?
9. Many more people than I realized walk through life with their head buried in their cell phone. I only became more aware of this phenomenon once I got my head out of mine, but it’s astounding to see. Spend a few hours around your town counting how many people are plugged into their phones, and you’ll be as shocked as I was.
10. My children deserve my undivided attention. When I’m multi-tasking my day away with my smart phone in hand then I’m more than likely not giving any measurable attention to them! And that’s the most valuable lesson I’ve learned.
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