One of the best ways to instill confidence and self-worth in your children is to provide them with unconditional love. The security that they get from knowing that their parents love them no matter what is priceless. Of course our children often behave poorly or do things we wish they wouldn’t, but it’s critical that we show them that we love them no matter what their behavior or accomplishments. How can we as parents work to do this each and every day?
Tell them you love them. Your children love to hear that you love them. It’s music to their little ears. Share your love for them with words morning, noon, and night.
Give hugs often. The older your kids get the harder it is to get them to hug you back, but make the effort to show them physical affection whenever you can.
Listen. When your children talk to you, be sure that you listen attentively to what they have to say. If you ignore their efforts to reach out to you, then you may be sending them signals that your love has limits. And that’s a message you don’t want them to hear.
Spend time together. From fun activities like going to the park to less appealing chores like cleaning the garage, spending time together increases feelings of affection between family members.
Show love even when they misbehave. It’s pretty easy to express our love and affection when our child is making straight A’s and behaving perfectly. But that’s not usually going to be the case! It’s extra important that we tell our children that we love them when they have done something wrong. Don’t get me wrong, they’ll still get put in time-out for throwing food at the dinner table, but sometime during that same night they’ll also get a good hug and an “I love you.” It’s a lot harder to do this when they’re in trouble, but that’s when it’s most important to show them the true meaning of unconditional love.